The effects of  substance abuse can be devastating.

All members of the family, including co-workers, friends and neighbours feel the effects of chemical dependency. Many can benefit from some aspect of treatment, or even increased knowledge, because of what they have been exposed to by the behavior of the addict.

The Addict/Abuser -  Addiction affects his/her physical health, and also mental, emotional and spiritual health. Some people will gain weight, some will lose, through lack of eating while drinking or using. The liver is the most affected organ, and the cells of the brain, but the whole body suffers from the abuse. Most of the damage is reversible if caught early. Work will suffer; consequently, problems with finances and family quarrels. Family members never know what to expect next, and social activities are usually curtailed. A wall is gradually created.

The Spouse/Partner  - Becomes an unknowing and/or unwilling enabler in many of these situations, simply because it happens over a relatively long period of time. The spouse does not realize that s/he is making excuses for the addict; to other family members, friends, co-workers, "the boss", and bill collectors. It takes an emotional toll on those living with the addict.

The Children   -  Do not know what to expect from the behavior of the addict. Consequently, they develop their own defenses in order to cope. They may take on more responsibility, or less, hide from the chaos, or try to make light of it, or simply escape from the situation altogether. They, too, need help.

Young Addict   - If the abuser is a teen, or young person, all other family members will be affected. Some will try to cover up, some will enable the behavior, while others will escape. 

As time passes, many of these enabling or escaping behaviors become so ingrained as to be unrecognizable from "normal". They become the new "status quo", yet things are still unmanageable, and getting worse. 

 It is time to ask for help. 

Visit the Resource page, or Contact Me, as an experienced and qualified addiction counselor.